"Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery." ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
There should be a class in school on picking a good mate. This is such an important choice in life and so many people make the wrong ones over and over again or go into marriage or life commitment without really thinking and deciding if this is what is best for him/her.
Again, I hope my children will read this many years down the road, so remember that MOM IS ALWAYS RIGHT!!!
Do they make you happy?
Are they fun to be with?
Do you have the same morals and values?
Are you compatible?
Are you attracted to your mate?
This goes much beyond physical attraction...looks fade quickly and the rest is what you will have for life, so be sure you like what you have.
Have those often difficult conversations about money, religion, or parenting BEFORE you marry. Trust me, you will have them MANY times after marriage too, but starting off on the same page will help tremendously.
Take your time...don't be in a rush to find someone and settle. The right person is out there and you will be so glad you waited when he/she comes along. It will make all of those "WHAT WAS I THINKING?" relationships worth it and put everything in to perspective.
All relationships are a constant struggle and one that needs daily attention and efforts. Make sure you are working together and not against each other.