Thursday, October 29, 2009

Bit #23: Choose a mate wisely

Little Life Lesson and Bit of Grace 23: Choose a mate wisely and remember that Mom is always right.

"Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery." ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

There should be a class in school on picking a good mate. This is such an important choice in life and so many people make the wrong ones over and over again or go into marriage or life commitment without really thinking and deciding if this is what is best for him/her.

Again, I hope my children will read this many years down the road, so remember that MOM IS ALWAYS RIGHT!!!
Remember that saying "love is blind." If your parents, family, friends, support system don't think the person is right for you, chances are they are right. LISTEN TO THEM!
Make sure you know the person well.

Do they make you happy?
Are they fun to be with?
Do you have the same morals and values?
Are you compatible?
Are you attracted to your mate?
This goes much beyond physical attraction...looks fade quickly and the rest is what you will have for life, so be sure you like what you have.

Have those often difficult conversations about money, religion, or parenting BEFORE you marry. Trust me, you will have them MANY times after marriage too, but starting off on the same page will help tremendously.

Take your time...don't be in a rush to find someone and settle. The right person is out there and you will be so glad you waited when he/she comes along. It will make all of those "WHAT WAS I THINKING?" relationships worth it and put everything in to perspective.

All relationships are a constant struggle and one that needs daily attention and efforts. Make sure you are working together and not against each other.
There is no such thing as a perfect person, but there is such thing as a perfect person for YOU!! Enjoy the journey in finding each other.


  1. Wonderful post! I wish that I had this in front of me when I was getting married the first time around.

    It is just so true. You HAVE to find someone that you get along with and are compatible with.

  2. This is so true! I'm printing this out!


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